Being pregnant with a toddler has its challenges too. I am very grateful for having such a great little boy but the slower I get the faster he does. I swear I spend 75% of my waking hours bending over picking up something, washing dishes, sweeping, telling him NO, and changing poop. This is much easier when you are not growing another human being in your uterus. I actually have large amounts of Mommy guilt that I didn't prepare us (Mama and Jed) for. I feel like all of a sudden there was a ticking clock of our time together alone. I feel like I can't give him all the attention that I want because I am ill and when I am all back to normal, I have to share my time with his sibling. I shorted him a bit and it seems unfair. I know that this isn't bad or wrong, but I am going to miss just us. Hormones don't help this Mommy guilt at all and everything will be okay, but I cherish the time we have left as a pair, or a threesome with Daddy. Soon we will be a full blown family of four.
This doesn't mean I am not over the moon about this baby, because I really am! We are so happy to expand our family and can't wait to meet our new little one. Jed's going to be an amazing big brother!
Nico - Love your blog. I have to say, when I was pregnant with Derek, I had all the same feelings about Avah, the guilt was almost unbearable at times, and I know it doesn't help when the second pregnancy kicks your butt, and you don't feel like doing a damn thing. Hang in there, cherish the times with Jed. But remember, it's amazing the love you will have for your second child. But it wont ever be compariable to the love you have for your first born, not better, just different, special. I am so excited for you and the adventures of what a family of four will bring. Lots of love...
ReplyDeleteThanks Lindsay. I really appreciate your Mama wisdom. Any bit of positive always helps. :)
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